Every parent has to be able to cope with some unsought advice on how to be a parent from their own parents, from friends that mean well, and even from strangers on the street. There are millions of bookstores and libraries that stock education material to teach mothers on how to keep their children happy, how to avoid spoiling them, how to put them to bed at night, how to encourage their intelligence and artistic abilities and overall how to just keep them healthy. Too much information is not always good either because too much information can result in conflicting information. Nevertheless, parents will also run into the issue of who will they listen too, or determining what information is the right information. So the best advice is going with one's instincts without some level of self-doubt.
What it really boils down to, is providing a good balance between the needs of the baby and the needs of the mother. If baby is happy, appropriately stimulated, learning, and calm, then it leaves a mother feeling as though she is doing her job right. Now on the flip side, if baby is fussy, bored and developmentally delayed, or prone to screaming and crying, then it leaves a mother feeling stressed out and like a failure.
No one is parenting experts, but we do have to notice that women who practice a certain style of parenting tend to have somewhat of an easier and smoother time parenting for the first few months postpartum. Mothers should always keep in mind that they are the only ones that know what is best for their children, no books or theory can ever change that. Listen to your instincts, and if they tell you what the best practices are and the feeling is what feels right will give the greatest satisfaction.
Attachment is the most important factor when it comes to parenting babies. Most small babies do not want to be put down for any length of time. Babies that are carried most of the time are normally calmer and tend to cry less. “As these children grow older, they tend to be less clingy, because their need of physical closeness to their caregivers has been fulfilled; they feel more secure when it comes time to explore the word” (Sears, William M.D.). Babies are more at ease when they are in physical contact with their parent.
The amount of time that a parent spends on holding their baby can take most of your time away from other things. So to make the amount of carrying and your holding your baby an easier process; invest in some different baby carriers to allow you to tote your little ones around hands free. This will allow you to able to go about your daily lives and still have hands to actually get things done. Babies can nap and still observe in a comfortable perch. A baby's brain and nervous system development are promoted by constant movement and observation of you and your everyday tasks. If you baby falls asleep in a sling, you can simple just take the sling off while baby is still in it and lay them down. Pediatrician William Sears, M.D., one of the best known proponents of attachment parenting, calls this carrying period baby carrying. Generally, it lasts from birth until the baby begins to crawl, walk and engaged in independent play”.