|Newborn Tips#1: Don't Hush-A-Bye-Baby|
|You don't have to be quiet while the baby is sleeping. The womb is loud, and newborns are used to the noise. When ours first came home, we watched television and I would vacuum, wash dishes and talk on the phone around her while she slept. She got used to sleeping with noise, and I could get stuff done. I am still able to vacuum in her room while she sleeps (she is 14 months), and she is peaceful and well rested when she wakes up.|
|Newborn Tips#2: Soothe Your Wailing Newborn|
|When my baby cries, I comfort her by patting her back in a heartbeat-like rhythm. That helps her burp more quickly, and it also helps her relax if she's crying from insecurity. If this doesn’t work, I also try one or all of Dr. Harvey Karp's five calming moves: swaddling, shushing, holding her on her side, swinging her or letting her suck. Sometimes it takes all six!|
As a parent, it is natural to wish that the child to be born is healthy and well; yet it also cannot be doubted that you sometimes wish that the gender of the baby is actually what you hope for. Relying simply on the natural course of conception will most likely not grant your wish. It is not impossible, however, to choose your child's gender. There are advanced scientific methods that are actually administered in fertility clinics or hospitals that parents can decide to use for their baby's gender selection.
Methods for accurately selecting gender of a baby usually involve a lot of money, about thousand dollars. These methods are invasive and may also require use of certain drugs that can cause adverse effects. There are also eligibility requirements to pass and meet. Most high-tech methods for gender selection are drawn from either artificial insemination (AI) or In Vitro Fertilization (IVF).
PGD or Pre-implantation Genetic Diagnosis. It is an IVF method where the embryo is made out of the womb. The embryo is also tested for gender and any genetic disorder. The technique was introduced in 1989 and was originally used to help couples with genetic disorders to ensure that their child will not have the same genetic problems. Today, some fertility clinics offer PGD for gender selection. This technique offers 100% effectiveness.
|Newborn Tips#3: Help Get Your Baby to Latch|
|If you are having latch-on issues while breastfeeding your baby, you can use breast shields to help the process. This was a wonderful tip that I learned from my lactation consultant. I had to use the shields for an entire month before my baby would latch onto my own nipple without them. Had it not been for the breast shields, I would not have been able to continue nursing my baby.|
|Newborn Tips#4: Get Prepped|
|At 3 weeks, babies’ days and nights become more predictable, and you can focus on yourself in addition to your newborn. One way to do that is by reducing your stress level - and having everything ready for your hungry baby and yourself is one way to do that. Start by prepping for the next feeding as soon as the previous one is over. For example, after an 11 p.m. feeding, get ready for the 2 a.m. one by prepping whatever you need for feeding and putting out fresh drinking water for yourself so you don’t have anything to think about in the middle of the night. During the day, take advantage of the baby’s naps to work out, shower or catch up on e-mail, or take a nap too.|
Microsort. This dye technique aims to separate sperm cells the produce a girl embryo from those that produce boy embryos. Sperm producing a parent's desired gender is then inserted to the uterus directly through AI. The method is said to be 90% effective when selecting girl babies and 74% effective when choosing boy babies.
Ericsson. This technique is somehow similar to Microsort where sperms producing girls are separated from sperms producing boys through the cell's speed in swimming. Boy-producing sperms are said to swim faster than girl-producing sperm. AI is also used to introduce the sperm cell into the uterus. The efficiency of this method is 78-85% for boys and 73-75% for girls.
Whelan Method. This method uses perfect timing of intercourse on certain days of the woman's menstruation cycle. The technique has 68% efficiency for boys and 56% efficiency for girls, yet experts dispute this rate of success from Whelan method.
Sex selection kits. These are kits used at home and is based on Shettles theory. Individual boys and girls kit is inclusive of a thermometer, sticks for ovulation prediction, herbal extracts, and vitamins as well as douches. Claimed success rate of this method is 96%.
There are also diets and supplements that are known to be useful in gender selection. Preconception diet is one theory involving the alteration of the body's pH level through dieting. It is claimed that the polarity of the egg will be influenced this way. If you wish for a baby boy, the diet should be high in sodium and potassium; for a baby girl, the diet must be high in magnesium and calcium. Astrology method utilizes the date of birth of the mother. Chinese calendar is also another method believed by some to be effective in choosing gender of a baby.
|Newborn Tips#5: Keeping Your Baby Awake During Feedings|
|When our baby was eating slowly and sleepily, my husband and I would massage her cheek to stimulate her to eat faster. A gentle stroke with a fingertip on her cheek was all it took, and on those long sleepless nights, this simple trick was a godsend! Our friends have found it works great with their infants too. When babies eat efficiently until they're full before going to sleep, they sleep for longer between feedings. And that means you’re both likely to be calmer!|
|Newborn Tips#6: Help Your Baby Bond with Dad|
|Make sure your baby has ample time alone with Daddy. His touch and voice are different than yours, and this will begin a bonding process and give you a break. Plus, it gets the baby used to being with someone other than you. The first few times can be hard. Make sure your baby is fed and well rested, as this will give you at least one or two hours before you're needed again. Then leave Dad and the baby alone. If you stay nearby, make sure the baby can’t see or hear you, and resist the urge to go into the room and "fix" things if she starts crying. Your baby cries with you and you experiment to find out what's wrong. Dads need time to do this too - in their own way. By allowing this time, your child will learn there is more than one way to receive comfort, which will help immensely when you leave your baby with a sitter or another family member for the first time. You could have your partner bathe her, put her to bed or just read or talk to her.|