|Newborn Tips#1: Don't Hush-A-Bye-Baby|
|You don't have to be quiet while the baby is sleeping. The womb is loud, and newborns are used to the noise. When ours first came home, we watched television and I would vacuum, wash dishes and talk on the phone around her while she slept. She got used to sleeping with noise, and I could get stuff done. I am still able to vacuum in her room while she sleeps (she is 14 months), and she is peaceful and well rested when she wakes up.|
|Newborn Tips#2: Soothe Your Wailing Newborn|
|When my baby cries, I comfort her by patting her back in a heartbeat-like rhythm. That helps her burp more quickly, and it also helps her relax if she's crying from insecurity. If this doesn’t work, I also try one or all of Dr. Harvey Karp's five calming moves: swaddling, shushing, holding her on her side, swinging her or letting her suck. Sometimes it takes all six!|
Child anger problems are becoming more and more common and there is alarm among child psychologists. They are seeing an increase in these angry and violent episodes even among very young children in the kindergarten. This type of behavior was not there before or was much less common.
Usually, child anger problems are minor and intermittent episodes of outburst, tantrums and so on. However, parents should sit up and start taking notice if these episodes are becoming an almost daily occurrence and if grades are going down at school. There may be incidences of harming himself or other siblings around him. These are alarm bells that should not be ignored.
The first thing to do is to try and get to the root of the problem. This is no easy matter but it does mean that we have to talk to the child to find out. There may well be hereditary issues, the home setting and tensions there and also problems at school. We can start the communication process just by doing these simple things.
|Newborn Tips#3: Help Get Your Baby to Latch|
|If you are having latch-on issues while breastfeeding your baby, you can use breast shields to help the process. This was a wonderful tip that I learned from my lactation consultant. I had to use the shields for an entire month before my baby would latch onto my own nipple without them. Had it not been for the breast shields, I would not have been able to continue nursing my baby.|
|Newborn Tips#4: Get Prepped|
|At 3 weeks, babies’ days and nights become more predictable, and you can focus on yourself in addition to your newborn. One way to do that is by reducing your stress level - and having everything ready for your hungry baby and yourself is one way to do that. Start by prepping for the next feeding as soon as the previous one is over. For example, after an 11 p.m. feeding, get ready for the 2 a.m. one by prepping whatever you need for feeding and putting out fresh drinking water for yourself so you don’t have anything to think about in the middle of the night. During the day, take advantage of the baby’s naps to work out, shower or catch up on e-mail, or take a nap too.|
We should be around to play with our child because it is often through play, that angry feelings are vented and displayed. The fact that we can witness these will give us a clue and then we can start talking about these. The same applies with slightly older children because we can do the chores with them and again those may provide an insight into what is causing all the anger.
It is great if we can explain a few things to a child and the older he is the greater chance he has of verbalising his feelings. That is what we need to do so that we can channel the anger into constructive and useful exercises. We can say that there is nothing wrong in punching a pillow or doing something harmless just to get rids of this anger. There is nothing wrong with letting off steam but it has to be done in a non violent and safe way for the child, the property and those other children and adults around them
Another thing to alert the child is to let him recognise the anger bubbling up and when it is about to explode. This is like a volcano and we can teach the child to be aware of the signs and then to take action which is safe so that the explosion is avoided or at least let off in a controlled manner.
So, the best ways to deal with the child anger problems is to get to the cause, teach the child to vent his anger safely. Finally it is a great idea to talk about other ways that we can safely let off steam without hurting anybody and which is perfectly safe.
|Newborn Tips#5: Keeping Your Baby Awake During Feedings|
|When our baby was eating slowly and sleepily, my husband and I would massage her cheek to stimulate her to eat faster. A gentle stroke with a fingertip on her cheek was all it took, and on those long sleepless nights, this simple trick was a godsend! Our friends have found it works great with their infants too. When babies eat efficiently until they're full before going to sleep, they sleep for longer between feedings. And that means you’re both likely to be calmer!|
|Newborn Tips#6: Help Your Baby Bond with Dad|
|Make sure your baby has ample time alone with Daddy. His touch and voice are different than yours, and this will begin a bonding process and give you a break. Plus, it gets the baby used to being with someone other than you. The first few times can be hard. Make sure your baby is fed and well rested, as this will give you at least one or two hours before you're needed again. Then leave Dad and the baby alone. If you stay nearby, make sure the baby can’t see or hear you, and resist the urge to go into the room and "fix" things if she starts crying. Your baby cries with you and you experiment to find out what's wrong. Dads need time to do this too - in their own way. By allowing this time, your child will learn there is more than one way to receive comfort, which will help immensely when you leave your baby with a sitter or another family member for the first time. You could have your partner bathe her, put her to bed or just read or talk to her.|